The only power you have is the power to change your own actions and reactions. But, by disrupting a pattern, you can help your family, too. Here are a few things you can do:Don’t gossip. Just smile and nod, or find another conversation. Take a break. Go see a movie or take a walk or play football with the neighbors. Stay somewhere else. If too many people are already staying at Grandma’s house, find another couch to crash on. Or pitch a tent in the backyard! Be patient, with others and yourself. When you see a pattern that leads to bickering, don’t participate – but be patient with those who do. Habits are hard to break. Notice the little changes and victories and be proud of yourself! Empower others. Forward the link to this article so others can learn to pay attention to and disrupt those negative family holiday behavior patterns, too! Here’s to your efforts to promote a more peace-filled holiday season!
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Kay Coughlin, CEO and Chief Facilitator of Facilitator On Fire, helps leaders with all five adult generations in today’s workplaces (iGen/Gen Z, Millennials, Gen X-ers and Boomers, and Traditionalists) so they can work together on teams that are higher-performing and happier.
Kay’s individual coaching program, “Jumpstart Coaching“, and “Leading Across Generations” workshops help deans and vice presidents build outstanding teams of all ages (schedule a strategy call here). Her keynote address, “Top Myths of Leading Generations,” is offered to help teams become abundantly successful, together.
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