Busting the myths of boundaries

Message Six: Busting the myths of boundaries I'm so pleased to be here with you again, one more time, for the final message* in this special series to help you stop your overwhelm. I’ve talked about how to eat that overwhelm watermelon one bite at a time, how to get curious so you can see what’s really going on, how to decide what you want to do instead of feeding the overwhelm, and how to...

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Breaking up with drama

Breaking up with drama (Episode 53) If you’ve ever had to live or work with somebody who is constantly stirring up drama, you know how exhausting it can be. How do you manage to stop the drama so it doesn’t control you? That’s what Kay Coughlin talks about in this podcast episode. Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Transcript of episode is below. Follow Kay...

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When to set a boundary to stop your overwhelm

Message Five: When to set a boundary to reduce your overwhelm In the first four messages in this series, I talked about the oh-so-real skills to begin to stop your overwhelm immediately. Today, we are finally ready to get down to the nitty-gritty of setting boundaries. When it comes to knowing anything about setting boundaries, I started from zero. I was raised in Good Girl culture. I didn't...

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Decide what you want to do instead of feeding the overwhelm

Message Four: Decide what you want to do instead I’m really excited to be back here with you again today because I get to talk about the skill to stop overwhelm that everybody wants to jump ahead to anyway. It's deciding what to do instead. Here's a quick recap if you missed any previous messages: Message 1: I confess to getting overwhelmed while I was working on this very series about...

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Get curious to stop the overwhelm

Message Three: Get Curious Hello again! In case you missed the first two messages in this series, here’s what you need to know. In message one, I talked about how overwhelm once again got to me while I was in the middle of creating this series on overwhelm! (And my gosh, how ironic is that?) And in message two, I talked about the skill of focusing on just one thing, which I learned many years...

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Focus on just one thing to stop the overwhelm

Message Two: Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries In the first message I sent, I talked about how overwhelm got me again while I was in the middle of creating this series on, of all things, overwhelm!* Today, I’m going to talk about how I picked up skill #1 to stop overwhelm, and that skill is learning to focus on just one thing. (Prefer to listen to these messages? Go here.) Back when I was...

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Message one – Stop the Overwhelm, Set Boundaries

Message One: Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries I have a confession to make: My original plan for this “Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries” series was to send these emails and release a string of short complementary videos. But as I worked diligently through the weeks of planning, outlining and writing (hey, when I put something out into the world, I want it to serve people well), my life...

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Stop Overwhelm Series

Stop the Overwhelm - Set Boundaries Message Series Message One - How I got overwhelmed while writing this series on overwhelm Message Two - Focus on just one thing Message Three - Get curious so you can see what's really going on  Message Four - Decide what you want to do instead of feeding the overwhelm Message Five - When to set a boundary to reduce your overwhelm Message Six - Coming soon...

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Overfunctioning

Overfunctioning (Episode 52) In this episode, Kay Coughlin confesses to being an overfunctioner, and explains what overfunctioning is and when it might be a problem for caregivers. Importantly, when a caregiver overfunctions for a care receiver, it might be keeping both people in that relationship from improving their own health and well-being. Learn more about all of this work at...

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Being a sandwich family caregiver

Being a sandwich family caregiver (Episode 51) If you are raising kids and caring for an adult at the same time, you’re what’s known as a “sandwich family caregiver.” In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her personal experience being a sandwich family caregiver. She describes the range of life experiences (like having to deal with piles of unsolicited advice) that are common to sandwich...

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