How to stop pretending everything is OK

How to stop pretending everything is OK (Episode 42) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her lifetime of memories of pretending to be OK so that the people around her wouldn’t have to worry about her. And she talks about how to stop pretending. You, too, can develop compassion for yourself so that you can dare to live your own life instead. For more information about Kay’s webinars or...

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What it looks like to dare to live your own life

What it looks like to dare to live your own life (Episode 41) Daring to live your own life sounds great, but what exactly does that look like? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what could be possible for you to believe - things like saying “no.” And once you believe in these possibilities, you can begin to really truly dare to live your own life. Even when you are a person with...

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You can’t hurt somebody else’s feelings

You can't hurt somebody else's feelings (Episode 40) Have you ever heard, “You can’t hurt somebody else’s feelings,” and then did a double-take? Because there’s no way that could possibly be true, right? In this episode, Kay Coughlin explains why it actually is true and how this knowledge can help you get free from worrying about hurting somebody else’s feelings. Learn more about all of this...

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How to dare to live your own life

How to dare to live your own life (Episode 39) When you’re a caregiver, it can be really hard to remember that you’ve got a life of your own, too. But how do you learn what you really want and figure out a way to dare to live it? Kay Coughlin knows it is possible for anyone to do because she uses a 3-step process in her own life and with her clients. It works, even for caregivers, and that’s...

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Emotional safety – what it is and why you need it

Emotional Safety: what it is and why you need it (Episode 38) What the heck is emotional safety and why is it so important? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about it and how she creates it. One amazing benefit you can expect over time is that you will actually be able to practice it in your own everyday life. And that means you’ll be able to do things that are important to you, no matter...

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The difference between therapy and coaching

The difference between therapy and coaching (Episode 37) In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, listen to this episode to learn the difference between therapy and coaching. Kay Coughlin talks about when the difference matters, and when you should ask for help. Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Transcript of episode is below. #mental health...

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Why change is hard

Why it's so hard to change - your brain can be such a jerk! (Episode 36) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about our brains acting like jerks about change! But why does it happen? Listen to this as an “explainer” episode to help those of us who aren’t neuroscientists understand what’s going on in our heads when we are faced with the idea of changing anything. And why we can get so exhausted...

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The Human Giver System

The Human Giver System (Episode 35) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what she calls the “Human Giver System,” which is the system that relies on countless unpaid human caregivers to sacrifice everything for the sake of the system itself. Kay talks about how her family’s wishes during her father’s last days of life went against a hospital’s beliefs about Human Giver System, and how to...

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People can change at any age

You can change at any age (Episode 34) You can stop believing that change and growth is only possible for younger people! Change and growth is a choice, and it can happen at any age. You can’t force anybody to do it (including your care receiver), but you do have the power to change yourself - and ONLY yourself. Learn more about all of this work at FacilitatorOnFire.net/LearnMore. Transcript...

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You are allowed to have boundaries

You are allowed to have boundaries (Episode 33) Whether you’re a beginner or a seasoned pro when it comes to boundaries, it’s easy to believe that boundaries are great in every situation...except maybe not when you are a parent or caregiver. Because when the lives of your care receivers are at stake, you’re going to have to meet everybody’s needs no matter what it costs you. Right? Well, not...

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