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Human Giver Syndrome

Human Giver Syndrome

Human Giver Syndrome (Episode 31) Human Giver Syndrome is the belief that some people (the givers) are supposed to exist to put all of their energy into creating comfort and success for other people, and to be attractive and available, physically and emotionally, at...

It’s OK to want to be seen

It's OK to want to be seen for who you are (Episode 29) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about another radical idea: that it’s OK for caregivers to have identities and lives that don’t revolve around our role as caregivers. Kay explains that it’s normal and healthy...

Yes, it’s hard to decide where to start

Yes, it’s hard to decide where to start

It's hard to decide where to start (Episode 28) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about why the overwhelming experience of being a caregiver can keep you stuck, unable to make changes to situations, relationships, beliefs and emotions. The good news is that you...

What if judgment had no power over you?

What if judgment had no power over you?

What if judgment had no power over you? (Episode 27) Can you imagine what your life might look like if the judgment all around you wasn’t such a big deal?  Judgment is really a big and painful part of life as a family caregiver, and of course it’s all around us in all...

The story family caregivers are “supposed to” step into, even if they feel trapped by it

The story family caregivers are “supposed to” step into, even if they feel trapped by it

The story family caregivers are "supposed to" live (Episode 26) There are powerful stereotypes that family caregivers inherit when we agree to become caregivers. These stereotypes exist whether or not we know it - and certainly, we don’t realize how strong they are...

5 Things NOT To Do During 2020 Holidays

5 Things NOT To Do During 2020 Holidays

Given how high emotions are running, 2020 will be a great year to figure out how to stay close and connected during the holidays, even when you can’t do things the way you want. If you want to have a more peaceful and connected and less disappointing holiday season, here are five important things you can choose NOT to do this year.