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Boundaries and guilt, part two

Boundaries and Guilt, part two (Episode 50) In this episode, Kay Coughlin gets right to heart of one of the most important reasons we don’t like to set boundaries: guilt. Is it possible to stop the cycle of guilt so that it doesn’t control your life and hold you back...

Boundaries and Guilt, part one

Boundaries and Guilt, part one (Episode 49) In this episode, Kay Coughlin starts to tackle the tough and sensitive topic of why we feel so guilty when we set boundaries. Listen to this episode (49) to learn about the critical difference between guilt and shame, and to...

Post-caregiver stage of being a caregiver

The post-caregiver stage of being a caregiver (Episode 48) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about some of the most common experiences of being a post-caregiver. What is a post-caregiver exactly? It’s the last of the four stages of being a caregiver. This is the...

Short-term or acute stage of caregiver responsibilities

The short-term or acute stage of caregiver responsibilities (Episode 46) If you have ever been a caregiver in a short-term or acute situation - and certainly if that’s your situation right now - this episode is for you. While it’s typical to think mostly about the...

The difference between emotional boundaries and walls

The difference between boundaries and walls (Episode 43) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her lifetime of memories of pretending to be OK so that the people around her wouldn’t have to worry about her. And she talks about how to stop pretending. You, too, can...

How to stop pretending everything is OK

How to stop pretending everything is OK (Episode 42) In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about her lifetime of memories of pretending to be OK so that the people around her wouldn’t have to worry about her. And she talks about how to stop pretending. You, too, can...

What it looks like to dare to live your own life

What it looks like to dare to live your own life

What it looks like to dare to live your own life (Episode 41) Daring to live your own life sounds great, but what exactly does that look like? In this episode, Kay Coughlin talks about what could be possible for you to believe - things like saying “no.” And once you...

You can’t hurt somebody else’s feelings

You can't hurt somebody else's feelings (Episode 40) Have you ever heard, “You can’t hurt somebody else’s feelings,” and then did a double-take? Because there’s no way that could possibly be true, right? In this episode, Kay Coughlin explains why it actually is true...